Thursday, February 26, 2009

Speaking Their Love Language

Thanks to the MOMYS, I have been paying closer attention to what love language each of my children "speak".

I have to admit, I've never been very big on the 5 love languages. In fact, I don't even really know what my love language is nor do I really care...it's just not something I examine very closely.

But when it comes to my kids, I've found it SO much easier to connect with them when I'm "speaking" their love language.

For example, T-Man's primary love language is quality time. Once I really thought about his most common requests, it was just so apparent to me that quality time is what is MOST important to him in his relationships.

For those of you who have come to our home, you've probably heard T-Man tell Ryan and I "we need some time"...which means, "please leave so I can have [MooMaw] to myself". His most common questions are "Will you sit with me for a little talk?", "Will you come play ______ with me?", "Can I go to the store with you--just you and I?" and lately "Can we have a date night?"

So now that I'm aware of how he gives/receives love, it's much easier to take time out of my day in order to love on him! To be honest, before discovering all this, it was hard for me to be "side-tracked" from my daily To-Do List. But know that I take time to see things through T-Man's eyes, I know it's more to him that just a talk, just a game, just a car-ride...it's LOVE to him!

As for Boo, I'm still trying to figure out what his love language might be. My closest guess right now is giving/receiving gifts. It doesn't take a whole lot to make him a very happy boy...a surprise pizza for dinner, giving him a turn on the coveted guitar, a dum-dum sucker from the farm store, a new sippy cup, or just any new addition to his life and he's happy for days!

So when T-Man and I take our date night soon, I'll be sure to pick Boo up a little present to let him know I was thinking about him too!

2 comments:

Kyle and Mandy said...

Knowing their love language is so important and helpful! Even if what your main love language doesn't matter to you, it could make your husband's life easier! :)

Mandy

the broomes said...

Hey Grace!!! I came across your blog today when I noticed your post on baby #4 on facebook. Congrats on baby girl!!! That's so great! Looks like our lives are similarly exciting and joy-filled with kids and ministry stuff! ...Great insight with the love languages- I think that our oldest (Joshua) is time too. Let's keep in touch! Love you, girly! -Lindsey (Prosser) Broome

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