I used to keep a box with all the old cards I would receive from friends. In college, that box turned into 2 boxes. Then in our early married life, it turned into a medium-sized tub...
I had a lot of cards! Most of them were "thank-you's".
During the season of friends having weddings every weekend and then friends having babies every month...
I acquired a lot of "thank you" cards!
I decided in our first move as a married couple to throw away most of my "thank you" cards I had received.
That was a hard decision for me. I knew people had spent precious time on those cards, spent money on the postage and were truly grateful for the gift I sent, or the food I delivered.
But I had to do it. I had to get rid of the cards I would probably never look through. I had to simplify the "clutter"! And, after all, I knew they were thankful, I didn't need a card to remind myself of that!
What do you do with your "thank you" cards?
Well, I get very few "thank you's" anymore, because of my new policy...my new "shower gift".
In fact, I'm kinda known for it now...
Along with any gift I give or any meal I deliver is a verbal warning (or a note) saying,
"and please, NO THANK YOU CARD! Instead, use the time you would spend writing me a card, to cuddle your new baby a little longer or fix a special dessert for your new husband or...(the list goes on)."
I don't need thank-yous. I know people are thankful...I've been there--I know how thankful you are to get a new sleeper for a new baby or to get a meal after a long, hard day, etc.
Trust me, I know what a blessing those things can be...I've had 4 kids within 6 years. I know how treasured those acts of kindness ares...but I also know the TIME it takes to write thank you notes!
So... don't spend time sending me a thank you...use that time to enjoy your family and I won't have to feel bad about throwing away your card :)
(Don't worry, I still keep some though! I know "cards" are some peoples love languages...I know who those friends of mine are, so I keep those because they are full of memories and love for me!)